Unlocking Your Woman's Inner Slut

Written by Scarlet Henderson

When you think of the word "slut", a negative image may pop into your head. You may envision a scantily clad woman in hoochie attire dancing on a pole in six-inch Lucite stilettos. You may think of a hooker prowling the streets at midnight. For certain, you don't envision your own woman when you think of slutiness. Well, maybe you should.

Come on guys, every honest man will admit that the ideal woman is one who is a proper lady in public and a hot, uninhibited wild woman in the bedroom, who will drop it like it's hot at a snap of your manly fingers.

By definition, slut is a derogatory term for a sexually promiscuous person, usually a female. Nobody really knows where the word slut came from, but it is believed that it may have appeared as early as the 1400's to describe a dirty or promiscuous woman. The word has appeared in many dialects from around the world, so this tells us that slutty chicks have been around a long time and they certainly get around.

The biggest complaint I hear from men in serious long-term relationships or marriages is that their woman has become a bore in the bedroom, has lost interest, neglects her appearance, lacks creativity, doesn't make him feel desired or won't indulge his freaky side. There may be things that he wants sexually that she does not particularly like or believes are taboo such as anal or oral sex.

So how do you get your woman to unleash her inner slut and become the sex goddess of your dreams?

From a female perspective, let me school you on the sexual psychology of us females. We are very, very self-conscious creatures and often have self-esteem issues when it comes to our bodies or a particular part of our bodies. Even the most seemingly flawless women have body image issues. No woman’s body is perfect, well maybe Jessica Beal, Megan Fox, Rihanna, Halle Berry or most Victoria's Secret models, but the rest of us often feel uncomfortable with our naked selves. Herein lies the key to slutifying your woman, so that she feels free, confident, uninhibited and ready to take on every aspect of your raging hormones.

First of all, feeling confident in your love or affection is important to a woman. She needs to know that you care and that she is unique to you and feels that the two of you are exclusive to some extent. I once had a guy tell me exactly that - "woman screw better, if you tell them that you love them." Of course, that was after we did, in fact, screw, and he did, in fact, tell me he loved me a month after we met. Naturally, I didn't believe him and told him just that and I was right because the relationship did not endure for very long.

So, I am not saying should you lie to your lady, if love isn't in the air, but at least be honest about your intentions, your commitment or the lack thereof. Honesty is always the best way to go. So don't go spewing words of love just to get a woman to freak you. Just make her feel confident that she is not just a sex object and that you see her in her entirety as a woman.

Okay, now let's learn how to unlock her inner slut. Here is the next key is to making your woman feel confident about her body and its flaws and I'm sure you have constantly heard about them. Women like to talk about the things they think are wrong with their bodies. Whatever your woman complains about on her body, be it her massive rump, less-than-perky or under-inflated boobs, cheesecake thighs, love handles, paunchy belly, no-ass-at-all syndrome, being to skinny or whatever, your job is to remove that level of discomfort and boost her body image.

When you do make love to your woman, do not ignore those parts of her body that she is uncomfortable with, but embrace them (and I mean that literally). Kiss and caress the places where she complains about being the most self-conscious. Don't mention that specific part of her, but tell her that she is sexy and beautiful all over while you do so and be sincere. Most women can see through bullshit, especially in bed.
If you make your woman feel like a sex goddess in bed and as if she is the sexiest woman on earth to you, then she is more likely to lose any inhibitions and want to please you in every way.

The same men who complain about their girlfriends and wives being boring sexually are the same men whose wives and girlfriends complain about how their men don't make them feel desired and loved and make them feel self-conscious about their bodies.

Show your woman that she is beautiful to you and show her that you worship her body. Also show her that you care for her in both words and actions. If you do this enough, the next time you ask her to do something freaky or taboo, there is a very good chance you will be pleasantly surprised when she says, "Hell yeah, baby, let's do this!"

By the way, the two biggest complaints I hear from men in the sex department are that their woman will not indulge in anal sex and either won't perform oral sex on them and if she does, she does not put much effort into it and does it half-assed. The other complaint is that she's let go of her looks. I can pretty much guarantee (and no you can't sue me if I'm wrong) that if you pump up your woman's self esteem and help her convince her that she is your image of sexual perfection, she will want to look lovely for you, she will give in to you more openly in the bedroom and she just might become your perfect lady in public and your bedroom slut and you will live happily ever after.

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